In this episode, my guest is Farm Family Coach Lyle Wiens – a professional Agrologist and Grain Marketing Advisor, with training in conflict management, mediation, and group facilitation.
We discuss Lyle’s knowledge on an approach to leadership called the “Art of Hosting”, including the four Principles of Dialogue in which the goal is a meaningful and impactful dialogue that is respectful, creative, generative, and allows for solutions. Listeners will gain insightful and practical wisdom on how to achieve a farm family transition that is oriented towards creating conditions for positive relationships and building healthy teams and organizational culture.
“Actually, I morally judge people all the time, and then all of a sudden I find myself in a conversation with them, and it’s really rewarding, and I’m totally surprised. See what happens when you’re open to curiosity about someone? In the Art of Hosting, we call these limiting beliefs. We look at someone and think that person is not capable of [something], or they can’t see a way through this scenario, [but this is simply my own limiting belief at play].” -Lyle Wiens
Mentioned During This Episode
Books
- Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg
- Crucial Conversations, Tools for Talking When Stakes are High by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan and Switzler
- Polarity Management, Identifying and Managing Unsolvable Problems by Barry Johnson
- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
- When Sorry Isn’t Enough by Dr. Gary Chapman
Course
Podcast Episodes
People
- Barry Johnson: Founding Partner, Chairman & Creator of The Polarity Map® and Principles
- Brené Brown: American Academic and Podcaster
- Dr. Gary Chapman: International Public Speaker and Best-selling Author
- Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D: Founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication
- Viktor E. Frankl: Author and Holocaust Survivor
Blog Posts
- How to Say “Sorry” at Harvest by Elaine Froese
- Thinking Inside the Box of Lateral Thinking by Lydia Carpenter
- The power of a letter to get unstuck by Elaine Froese
Other
Elaine Froese Resources & Links
- SPEAKING – book Elaine for your next event
- COACHING – find your Farm Transition Coach
- MEMBERSHIP – join the waitlist for the Farm Family Harmony Membership
- RESOURCES – download for FREE
- CONTACT – take the next steps in your transition
About Our Guest
Lyle is a Professional Agrologist with the Manitoba Institute of Agrologists and has a Bachelor of Science degree in Agricultural Economics from the University of Manitoba. He also has training in conflict management, mediation, and group facilitation. He works as a Grain Marketing Advisor where he assists farmers as they produce and sell their crops.
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Timestamps
[0:00:30] Introduction to Lyle Wiens
[0:03:34] Art of Hosting and the Principles of Dialogue
[0:05:33] Key Principles of the Principles of Dialogue
[0:08:42] What it means to “host yourself”
[0:10:03] Listening vs Convincing
[0:10:42] Barry Johnson and Polarity
[0:13:51] Honoring the intensity of agriculture
[0:18:00] Power dynamic in farm family transition
[0:18:45] Navigating and hosting powerful people
[0:20:00] Sitting with tension and being conflict-aware
[0:22:23] The stories we tell ourselves
[0:23:25] Power, Control, and Perfectionism
[0:25:42] Nonviolent Communication
[0:26:23] Life-alienating Communication
[0:27:26] Moralistic Judgements
[0:29:16] Limiting Beliefs
[0:31:35] There’s always a choice
[0:36:25] Crying and the culture of love
[0:35:42] A generational resistance to face-to-face conversation
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