{"id":9033,"date":"2023-12-07T11:12:05","date_gmt":"2023-12-07T16:12:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/?p=9033"},"modified":"2023-12-07T11:16:07","modified_gmt":"2023-12-07T16:16:07","slug":"entitlement-vs-fairness-in-farm-transition","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2023\/12\/07\/entitlement-vs-fairness-in-farm-transition\/","title":{"rendered":"Entitlement vs. Fairness in Farm Transition"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||1px|||&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/8PK9OVSedSU?si=5TuFxuCX_m2xy0Ne\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>The best gift you can give your family this holiday season is certainty for the future, and a clear explanation of why you have made the decisions you have around the transfer of your wealth.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve put the following<strong> 26 Myths of Entitlement vs. Fairness<\/strong> together for you to use to help your family get real about expectations surrounding the transition of wealth in your family, and your farm business.<\/p>\n<p>Addressing myths about entitlement versus fairness in farm family transitions can be crucial for fostering a smoother transition process. Here are 26 common myths that farm families may have about this topic:<\/p>\n<p><strong>Myth 1: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness means equality.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Reality: Fairness often requires distributing assets or responsibilities based on individual needs and contributions.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Myth 2: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">The eldest child is entitled to inherit the farm.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\">Reality: Inheritance should be based on merit and interest, not birth order.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Myth 3: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">All children should inherit equally, regardless of involvement in the farm.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span>Reality: Fairness may involve rewarding those actively working on the farm more than non-participating heirs.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Myth 4: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness means leaving no one disappointed.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span>Reality: It\u2019s impossible to please everyone entirely; focus on what\u2019s equitable and sustainable.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Myth 5: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Children who leave the farm have no claim to its assets.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\">Reality: Non-farming children may still have legitimate interests or investments in the family business.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Myth 6: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Entitlement is always a bad thing.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\">Reality: Acknowledging contributions or sacrifices made by family members can be healthy.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Myth 7: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">The older generation should retain control indefinitely.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\">Reality: Succession planning should include transitioning control to the next generation gradually.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 8: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness means everything must be split 50\/50.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Fairness considers various factors, not just a 50\/50 division.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 9: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Inheritors are entitled to everything the farm generates.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Sustainability and reinvestment in the farm\u2019s future must also be considered.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 10: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness can be determined without open communication.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Fairness requires clear, ongoing, and transparent discussions among family members.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 11: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Parents should provide an equal financial starting point for all heirs.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Different children may have different needs, abilities, and opportunities.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 12: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness is solely about assets; emotions don\u2019t matter.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Emotional well-being and family harmony are essential aspects of fairness.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 13: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness can be achieved with a one-size-fits-all plan.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Each family\u2019s circumstances are unique, and solutions should be tailored accordingly.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 14: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">The older generation must decide everything for the younger generation.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Involving the younger generation in decision-making fosters a sense of ownership and responsibility.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 15: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness means avoiding conflict at all costs.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Addressing conflicts constructively can lead to a fairer outcome in the long run.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 16: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Only active labor should be compensated.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Contributions like management, expertise, or capital investments also deserve recognition.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 17: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness doesn\u2019t require written agreements.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Legal documents can help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 18: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">The next generation should automatically take over when the older generation<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Succession should be based on competence and readiness, not just age.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 19: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Parents should make all decisions before discussing them with their heirs.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Involving heirs in decision-making can lead to better solutions and greater acceptance.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 20: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">The farm\u2019s history and tradition should determine everything.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Tradition can be valuable, but it should not impede necessary changes for sustainability.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 21: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Heirs are entitled to the same opportunities, regardless of their interests or skills.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Encouraging heirs to pursue their passions and strengths can benefit the farm.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 22: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness requires sacrificing the farm\u2019s profitability.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Fairness and profitability can coexist with careful planning.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 23: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Addressing entitlement issues can be postponed indefinitely.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Procrastination can lead to family conflicts and jeopardize the farm\u2019s future.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 24: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness means treating all heirs exactly the same.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Fairness involves recognizing individual circumstances and needs.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 25: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Entitlement issues will resolve themselves over time.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p class=\"p2\">Reality: Addressing entitlement requires proactive efforts and open dialogue.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong>Myth 26: <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Fairness is a one-time decision.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p2\">Reality: Fairness should be an ongoing consideration, adapting to changing circumstances.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p2\">Addressing these myths and fostering open, honest communication can help farm families navigate the complexities of entitlement and fairness during the transition process.<\/p>\n<p data-pm-slice=\"1 1 []\"><em>&#8220;Being clear is kind\u201c ~Bren\u00e9 Brown.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #662d91;\">***<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elaine Froese, CSP, CAFA, CHICoach, and her coaching team are here to work with farm families in transition to find harmony through understanding. Listen to Elaine\u2019s podcast <a href=\"http:\/\/www.farmfamilyharmonypodcast.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a>.<br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #662d91;\">Did you enjoy <em><strong>Entitlement vs. Fairness in Farm Transition<\/strong><strong>? <\/strong><\/em>You might want to check these articles out too:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2023\/11\/23\/family-dynamics-are-you-going-to-be-the-leader-of-a-healthier-dynamic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Family Dynamics: Are you going to be the leader of a healthier dynamic<\/a><br \/><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2023\/11\/09\/farmers-need-to-find-time-for-family\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Farmers need to find time for family<\/a><\/span><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2023\/10\/26\/the-emotional-and-financial-cost-of-nastiness-3\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">The Emotional and Financial Cost of Nastiness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image title_text=&#8221;How To Write A Letter To Get Unstuck&#8221; url=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/how-to-write-a-letter-to-get-unstuck\/&#8221; url_new_window=&#8221;on&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Image&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/12\/Key-Challenges-Audit-Sheet.jpg&#8221; url=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/key-challenges-audit-sheet\/&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The best gift you can give your family this holiday season is certainty for the future and a clear explanation of why you have made the decisions you have around the transfer of your wealth.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":9041,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/o4K6bItAbCY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe>\r\n\r\nHarvest is in full swing on our farm, and I am not there\u2026for a few days. Where is it written you cannot leave the farm during harvest? (Almost on every page of the unpublished book \u201cThe Culture of Agriculture.\u201d)\r\n\r\nIf you are one of the 2800 folks who have stumbled upon \u201cFinding Fairness in Farm Transition\u201d on my YouTube channel at Farm Family Coach, you already know I am on a mission to change mindsets in agriculture. Fairness is helping everyone in the family be successful.\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Enter Scott Armstrong and his new workbook: <i>Mind Switch Retirement Planner<\/i>.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n<img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-6952 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-1024x512.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" \/>\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Armstrong is a speaker friend who shared his insights at a national financial planner September convention in Niagara Falls, the place I also journeyed to at the start of our September harvest. He uses the word \u201cretirement\u201d, for ag folks I prefer to use the term reinvention:<\/p>\r\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Here are some things to consider as you age on your farm or ranch:<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n<ol class=\"ol1\">\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>What are the current roles you want to continue?<\/b> Which ones would you like to let go of? My farmer is coughing more after cleaning bins, and I am encouraging him to quit that task at age 65, which is now.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Are you still passionate about farming?<\/b> Or just parts of it? Simon Sinek says, \u201cfulfillment comes when we live our lives on purpose\u201d. What is it you are doing on your farm where you lose all track of time? This summer I think my farmer lost track of mowing fields and ditches and waiting for the grain to ripen. I love to play with my grandkids and enjoy their giggles, stories, and curiosity. Play me with them is a sweet spot and I am intentional in making time for them. I am still passionate about helping farm families make intentional choices for a better quality of life and harmony through understanding.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Do your passion and purpose align with your spouse\u2019s vision<\/b>? This is where it gets messy. You want to leave the farm life roles and responsibilities, but your partner does not. Not for a long time! Where is it written you cannot pursue some things in different time zones or days apart from your spouse?<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Independence is one of my core values, yet my husband respects what I need to fill my well, and I am happy when I return to the farm from my off-farm contracts and contacts. Love and respect for the other can go both ways.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Adventure is big<\/b> on Scott Armstrong\u2019s workbook list. Farmers spend a lot of money on crop protection and other inputs. Many use the points from farm credit cards to fund short-term winter adventures. One of my clients is on a motorbike in the Maritimes as I write this. (Dairy farmer). Another farmer spends time in Mexico helping the poor build houses in the winter, and he wants to do more of this. Our adventures to visit friends in New Zealand, or travel with friends to Hawaii have been great times of renewal. Perhaps there is an ag tour you have been putting off. The GREAT PAUSE showed us how isolation and lack of adventure can really cramp our style, but we now have options. The most recent adventure for folks in our circle has been electric bikes. They are great for checking fields, riding down the Turtle Mountains to Boissevain, and going for a quick spin before supper. What is the adventure you have been putting off?<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Vitality is an energy we all want more of.<\/b> Armstrong is convinced we are only using 50% of our body\u2019s capacity. Our wonderful physician Dr. Nell shook his finger at us 5 years ago saying \u201cLook you two it\u2019s time you started having some fun. At 75 it all starts to fall apart!\u201d<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>This year I\u2019ve shed some weight via the app \u201cNOOM\u201d and am working on a better morning fitness routine. My friend, a cattle producer at age 68 does lots of stretching and 40 minutes on her elliptical every morning. She makes time for lots of hiking adventures and ensures her body is in great form. Armstrong has a great list of sleep hacks to have more renewal time.\r\nYour body is not a machine. Save money now by paying better attention to your health and making small habit changes to be healthier. Be kind to your brain and get off your devices long before bed. This will not kill you, and your marriage may be better off for the pillow talk without blue lights flashing from your cell phone or iPad, or TV.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Finances:<\/b> The number one encouragement I have is to find a good financial planner who can guide you with your income streams and personal wealth as your farm assets keep growing. CAFA which is the Canadian Association of Farm Advisors has great advisors in their directory who understand the culture of agriculture and the challenges of debt servicing and the need for personal wealth options. See <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.cafanet.ca\"><span class=\"s1\">www.cafanet.ca<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong>Living Legacy:<\/strong> What do you want people to say about you BEFORE you die?\r\nI hope you have a wonderful 80th birthday party where folks can tell you in their own words and stories about how your life really was a blessing to them. Do you want to be able to set your grandkids up for financial success? Can you help fund their RESP for trades or university training? Could you help fund the local arts and culture or sports foundation of your small town? Would you be able to secretly give a \u201cleg up\u201d to a struggling single parent? Having the time to walk alongside newcomers to your community and financial support can be a huge blessing to making your town a great place to age gracefully. We live close to one of Manitoba\u2019s most beautiful small towns. The new bakeshop owner is now making sourdough bread with wheat head designs, plus great peanut butter marshmallow slices. This news may not excite you, but it is becoming a destination attraction. Sometimes it is the \u2018little things in life\u201d that make a day sweeter.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Social times<\/b>. Armstrong surprised me with his challenge to question who your friends are and why. Post-Covid relationships look different, and you may be navigating the loss of long-time or childhood friends. Intentionally make a list of the folks who align with your purpose and plans for growth. I\u2019ll still a big fan of calling my far-away friends to keep relationships growing, yet I also know having tea in person is refreshing. I suspect the guys reading this are longing for more friendships beyond the farm gate. What are you DOING about it?<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Find out more about Scott Armstrong\u2019s fun, practical workbook at <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mindswitch.ca\"><span class=\"s1\">www.mindswitch.ca<\/span><\/a><\/span>, and reach out to the Mind Switch community on <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/profile.php?id=100063687142266\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Facebook<\/a>.<\/span> Tell him you are working on changing the mindsets in agriculture, one family at a time.<\/p>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/roles-storyboard\/\"><strong><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Grab your copy of the Roles Storyboard<\/span><\/strong><\/a> to <span class=\"RFZYhc\">help you understand your 6 key roles - personal, couple, family, work (farm and off farm), friends, community.<\/span>\r\n\r\n***\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Elaine Froese is happy to be writing at 30,000 feet again. Invite her to speak at your next ag event. She has 30-plus years of practical insights for farmers to have the life they\u2019ve always wanted. One day at a time.\u00a0Visit <a href=\"http:\/\/www.elainefroese.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">here <\/span><\/a>or Instagram <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/farmfamilycoach\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@farmfamilycoach<\/a><\/span> and hit the Linktree bio. 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