{"id":8159,"date":"2023-08-03T08:38:44","date_gmt":"2023-08-03T16:38:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/?p=8159"},"modified":"2023-08-09T15:58:29","modified_gmt":"2023-08-09T23:58:29","slug":"how-to-say-sorry-at-harvest-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2023\/08\/03\/how-to-say-sorry-at-harvest-2\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Say \u201cSorry\u201d at Harvest"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||1px|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/xhtnVEXQom8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes I wish I didn\u2019t have real-life examples of how I make mistakes, but my mishaps make good fodder for posts! In 2013, ten years ago,\u00a0 I was the combine driver who backed into the fuel truck while I was unloading my auger for cleanout to move to the next field. I have a bad habit of having many accidents while backing up, so I should have checked my mirrors. The damage was a bent hydraulic shaft over the straw choppers, which was fixed with a $400 part, and no downtime, thankfully.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I told my husband that I was sorry for the mistake, and I thanked my son for quickly tracking down the part. Our employee also now understands the importance of not parking vehicles behind me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Harvest this year is going to be extra stressful for folks in west central Saskatchewan and southeast Alberta due to many years of drought&#8230; Regardless of what situation our fields are in, we always get to choose our response to the stresses around us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019d like to share some practical ways to make things right that I learned from Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas in their fabulous book called \u201c<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When Sorry Isn\u2019t Enough<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u201d Chapman is also the author of <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Five Love Languages<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, so you may be familiar with his practical approach.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-8173 alignnone size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/How-to-Say-Sorry-at-Harvest.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/How-to-Say-Sorry-at-Harvest.png 600w, https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/How-to-Say-Sorry-at-Harvest-480x320.png 480w\" sizes=\"auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 600px, 100vw\" \/><\/p>\n<h4><strong>There are 5 ways to say sorry.<\/strong><\/h4>\n<ol>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u201d You <\/span><b>express regret<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. I was quick to do this after I heard the thud of hitting the truck. I also expressed regret to the semi-driver who grazed me as I was backing my SUV out of my garage onto my lane, rushing to get to the post office. I now always look down the lane before cranking out of the driveway! Sometimes expressing regret is all it takes to make restitution with the person you have offended but recall the young kids who you\u2019ve asked to say \u201csorry\u201d and it comes out quickly from their little mouths, but with the wrong tone of voice, and no further change of behavior. Not a good thing.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI was wrong.\u201d Those folks who can <\/span><b>accept responsibility<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for their hurtful actions get more traction with spouses who expect more that a quick sorry. This means that you accept the fact that you made a mistake and own up to it. I was not going to sneak around the next field with a dented shaft, honesty is always the best policy in my books. Someone has torn a piece of sheet metal out of our shed, but we never have found anyone to own up to the mistake. Damage is done, but no one accepts responsibility.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cHow can I make it right?\u201d <\/span><b>Making restitution<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. When I backed Wes\u2019s <\/span>Pickup in town,\u00a0 into a car parked in my blind spot with the pickup hitch making a perfectly square hole in the car\u2019s front bumper I was angry that the driver had not used his horn to stop me! I had to make it right with a $700 cheque to pay for a new car bumper, and I no longer drive the truck in town if a large hitch is present. Besides an apology, some people want to know what is going to change in the future with their actions so that they can make things right. In harvest season when stress is high, you really need to focus on a positive attitude to catch people doing things right, so that you can build up the emotional bank account of all the harvesters. Be willing to take some difficult feedback if you are cutting too high, or the meals need to be timelier to the field. Don\u2019t take things personally but seek out the ways other folks would like to be appreciated. Watch the tone of your voice on the FM radio. Long hours, dusty itchy backs, and poor yields make people cranky if you are not careful to check your attitude. Just making fresh hot coffee for my son and our employees \u201cmakes lots of things right\u201d during busy field times.<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI want to change.\u201d <\/span><b>Genuinely repenting<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. In harvest season you have habits around how you like to open a field and the direction of the swaths. Sometimes getting folks to adopt a new way of doing things is stressful until they can see the benefit. The swather driver needs to have some compassion for the grain cart person or trucker as to the pattern created by the swaths. Are you open to suggestions to change your ways? Make a mind shift to be able to ask, \u201c<\/span><b>Is there something you would like me to do differently<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201c<\/span><b>Can you find it in your heart to forgive me<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?\u201d Requesting forgiveness takes courage, but the result is that you will feel better and lighter when you are forgiven. I appreciate a spouse who doesn\u2019t yell or swear at me when I cause damage by backing up. He forgives me and we move on. Chapman says that \u201cfor those with a controlling personality, asking forgiveness is out of their comfort zone emotionally. To successfully learn to speak the apology language of requesting forgiveness or, for that matter, any of the apology languages, an extremely controlling individual will likely require the help of a counselor or friend who is willing, to be honest with him or her.\u201d (page 156.)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So now you are primed for harvest, getting machines, ready, and your ability to apologize in the right way. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Here are Chapman\u2019s tips on what not to say when apologizing:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Haven\u2019t you gotten over that yet?<\/span><\/li>\n<li>Why do you always\u2026?<\/li>\n<li>What\u2019s the big deal?<\/li>\n<li>Give me a break.<\/li>\n<li>You just need to get over it.<\/li>\n<li>You sound like your mother.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Try this instead:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I did it, and I have no excuse.<\/li>\n<li>Can you ever forgive me?<\/li>\n<li>I realize that talk is cheap. I know that I need to show you how I will change.<\/li>\n<li>I will try to make this up to you by\u2026<\/li>\n<li>You have every right to be upset.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #662d91;\">***<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">I wish you all a very safe and successful harvest. In the sunny southwest of Manitoba, we are thankful for decent crops! Take care of everyone on your team, and yourself with good sleep, great food, and a gracious attitude. I will do my best this year not to back into anything!<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #662d91;\">Did you enjoy<em><strong> How to Say \u201cSorry\u201d at Harvest? <\/strong><\/em>You might want to check these articles out too:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2017\/08\/29\/6-tips-for-emotional-agility-this-harvest\/\"><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">6 Tips for<\/span> <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Emotional Agility During the Harvest Season<\/span><\/a><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><br \/><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2016\/10\/18\/managing-a-happier-harvest\/\">Managing a Happier Harvest<\/a><br \/><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2023\/07\/20\/tools-to-get-better-at-fixing-farm-fightsconflict-resolution-101\/\">Tools to get better at fixing farm fights\u2026conflict resolution 101<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Kick-start-Succession-Conversations.jpg&#8221; title_text=&#8221;Kick-start Succession Conversations&#8221; url=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/kick-start-succession-conversations\/&#8221; url_new_window=&#8221;on&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Image&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u201d You express regret. I was quick to do this after I heard the thud of hitting the truck. I also expressed regret to the semi-driver who grazed me as I was backing my SUV out of my garage onto my lane, rushing to get to the post office. I now always look down the lane before cranking out of the driveway! Sometimes expressing regret is all it takes to make restitution with&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":8173,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/o4K6bItAbCY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe>\r\n\r\nHarvest is in full swing on our farm, and I am not there\u2026for a few days. Where is it written you cannot leave the farm during harvest? (Almost on every page of the unpublished book \u201cThe Culture of Agriculture.\u201d)\r\n\r\nIf you are one of the 2800 folks who have stumbled upon \u201cFinding Fairness in Farm Transition\u201d on my YouTube channel at Farm Family Coach, you already know I am on a mission to change mindsets in agriculture. Fairness is helping everyone in the family be successful.\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Enter Scott Armstrong and his new workbook: <i>Mind Switch Retirement Planner<\/i>.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n<img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-6952 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-1024x512.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" \/>\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Armstrong is a speaker friend who shared his insights at a national financial planner September convention in Niagara Falls, the place I also journeyed to at the start of our September harvest. He uses the word \u201cretirement\u201d, for ag folks I prefer to use the term reinvention:<\/p>\r\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Here are some things to consider as you age on your farm or ranch:<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n<ol class=\"ol1\">\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>What are the current roles you want to continue?<\/b> Which ones would you like to let go of? My farmer is coughing more after cleaning bins, and I am encouraging him to quit that task at age 65, which is now.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Are you still passionate about farming?<\/b> Or just parts of it? Simon Sinek says, \u201cfulfillment comes when we live our lives on purpose\u201d. What is it you are doing on your farm where you lose all track of time? This summer I think my farmer lost track of mowing fields and ditches and waiting for the grain to ripen. I love to play with my grandkids and enjoy their giggles, stories, and curiosity. Play me with them is a sweet spot and I am intentional in making time for them. I am still passionate about helping farm families make intentional choices for a better quality of life and harmony through understanding.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Do your passion and purpose align with your spouse\u2019s vision<\/b>? This is where it gets messy. You want to leave the farm life roles and responsibilities, but your partner does not. Not for a long time! Where is it written you cannot pursue some things in different time zones or days apart from your spouse?<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Independence is one of my core values, yet my husband respects what I need to fill my well, and I am happy when I return to the farm from my off-farm contracts and contacts. Love and respect for the other can go both ways.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Adventure is big<\/b> on Scott Armstrong\u2019s workbook list. Farmers spend a lot of money on crop protection and other inputs. Many use the points from farm credit cards to fund short-term winter adventures. One of my clients is on a motorbike in the Maritimes as I write this. (Dairy farmer). Another farmer spends time in Mexico helping the poor build houses in the winter, and he wants to do more of this. Our adventures to visit friends in New Zealand, or travel with friends to Hawaii have been great times of renewal. Perhaps there is an ag tour you have been putting off. The GREAT PAUSE showed us how isolation and lack of adventure can really cramp our style, but we now have options. The most recent adventure for folks in our circle has been electric bikes. They are great for checking fields, riding down the Turtle Mountains to Boissevain, and going for a quick spin before supper. What is the adventure you have been putting off?<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Vitality is an energy we all want more of.<\/b> Armstrong is convinced we are only using 50% of our body\u2019s capacity. Our wonderful physician Dr. Nell shook his finger at us 5 years ago saying \u201cLook you two it\u2019s time you started having some fun. At 75 it all starts to fall apart!\u201d<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>This year I\u2019ve shed some weight via the app \u201cNOOM\u201d and am working on a better morning fitness routine. My friend, a cattle producer at age 68 does lots of stretching and 40 minutes on her elliptical every morning. She makes time for lots of hiking adventures and ensures her body is in great form. Armstrong has a great list of sleep hacks to have more renewal time.\r\nYour body is not a machine. Save money now by paying better attention to your health and making small habit changes to be healthier. Be kind to your brain and get off your devices long before bed. This will not kill you, and your marriage may be better off for the pillow talk without blue lights flashing from your cell phone or iPad, or TV.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Finances:<\/b> The number one encouragement I have is to find a good financial planner who can guide you with your income streams and personal wealth as your farm assets keep growing. CAFA which is the Canadian Association of Farm Advisors has great advisors in their directory who understand the culture of agriculture and the challenges of debt servicing and the need for personal wealth options. See <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.cafanet.ca\"><span class=\"s1\">www.cafanet.ca<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong>Living Legacy:<\/strong> What do you want people to say about you BEFORE you die?\r\nI hope you have a wonderful 80th birthday party where folks can tell you in their own words and stories about how your life really was a blessing to them. Do you want to be able to set your grandkids up for financial success? Can you help fund their RESP for trades or university training? Could you help fund the local arts and culture or sports foundation of your small town? Would you be able to secretly give a \u201cleg up\u201d to a struggling single parent? Having the time to walk alongside newcomers to your community and financial support can be a huge blessing to making your town a great place to age gracefully. We live close to one of Manitoba\u2019s most beautiful small towns. The new bakeshop owner is now making sourdough bread with wheat head designs, plus great peanut butter marshmallow slices. This news may not excite you, but it is becoming a destination attraction. Sometimes it is the \u2018little things in life\u201d that make a day sweeter.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Social times<\/b>. Armstrong surprised me with his challenge to question who your friends are and why. Post-Covid relationships look different, and you may be navigating the loss of long-time or childhood friends. Intentionally make a list of the folks who align with your purpose and plans for growth. I\u2019ll still a big fan of calling my far-away friends to keep relationships growing, yet I also know having tea in person is refreshing. I suspect the guys reading this are longing for more friendships beyond the farm gate. What are you DOING about it?<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Find out more about Scott Armstrong\u2019s fun, practical workbook at <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mindswitch.ca\"><span class=\"s1\">www.mindswitch.ca<\/span><\/a><\/span>, and reach out to the Mind Switch community on <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/profile.php?id=100063687142266\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Facebook<\/a>.<\/span> Tell him you are working on changing the mindsets in agriculture, one family at a time.<\/p>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/roles-storyboard\/\"><strong><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Grab your copy of the Roles Storyboard<\/span><\/strong><\/a> to <span class=\"RFZYhc\">help you understand your 6 key roles - personal, couple, family, work (farm and off farm), friends, community.<\/span>\r\n\r\n***\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Elaine Froese is happy to be writing at 30,000 feet again. Invite her to speak at your next ag event. She has 30-plus years of practical insights for farmers to have the life they\u2019ve always wanted. One day at a time.\u00a0Visit <a href=\"http:\/\/www.elainefroese.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">here <\/span><\/a>or Instagram <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/farmfamilycoach\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@farmfamilycoach<\/a><\/span> and hit the Linktree bio. 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