{"id":6581,"date":"2022-05-05T06:33:50","date_gmt":"2022-05-05T14:33:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/?p=6581"},"modified":"2022-05-05T12:40:27","modified_gmt":"2022-05-05T20:40:27","slug":"when-it-is-hard-to-honour-mom-what-can-i-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2022\/05\/05\/when-it-is-hard-to-honour-mom-what-can-i-do\/","title":{"rendered":"When it is hard to honour Mom what can I do?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"When It&#039;s Hard To Honor Mom\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/2ymUQicKNUs?feature=oembed\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Coming to terms with a farm mom who is difficult to deal with may not be what you were expecting to read. After decades of coaching farm families, one might expect that farm moms always are collaborative and willing to negotiate what is best for all members of the family. Recently, the word \u201cnarcissist\u201d has become part of the language of farm clients. I am not a psychologist, so labels are not for my coaching work. \u201cCounselling is about recovery; coaching is about a discovery\u201d. A narcissist is someone who really focuses on their own needs and wants without much thought about what others are needing or wanting.<\/p>\n<p>Mother\u2019s Day is typically a celebration to honor your mother. Farm women live out giving and serving the needs of their families over many seasons of hard times and good times. The issue I want to address is the \u201cWhat if?\u201d question. What if you have a difficult mother who is stalling decision-making for transferring assets to the next generation? What if your mother has a huge debt and is not willing to seek out financial assistance or mediation? What if your farm mom refuses to seek outside farm advisors\u2019 expertise to help get the management of the farm or ranch back on track?<\/p>\n<p>Stephan Poulter, author of the <em>Mother Factor- How your Mother\u2019s Emotional Legacy Impacts your Life mentions<\/em> the ME FIRST type of mother, along with the perfectionist, unpredictable, best friend and complete style of mothering. He also wrote the Father Factor. Poulter suggests many tools for decreasing anger and co-dependence with your mom.<\/p>\n<p>As a coach, it is hard to watch unresolved anger between the generations, especially when you have facilitated tough conversations.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-6588 size-large aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Love-Mom-1024x683.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" srcset=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Love-Mom-980x653.jpeg 980w, https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Love-Mom-480x320.jpeg 480w\" sizes=\"auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw\" \/><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Come from curiosity. Be curious about what is going on for your mom. How old is she? What might she be afraid of? Is she emotionally well? What kind of support is she asking from you?<\/li>\n<li>Would your mother consider professional counseling help or therapy? Would you be willing to go together? If things don\u2019t work out, are you willing to let go and walk away?<\/li>\n<li>Do you understand or know much about how your mother was treated by her parents and their succession plan? Is there a story she is telling herself that she has not been able to share with you?<\/li>\n<li>What is the meaning of money to your mother? Bruce Sellery\u2019s work in <em>Moolala, why smart people do dumb things with their money,<\/em> explores what money means to different people. Does she have crushing debt? Is she so overwhelmed she is having a hard time knowing where to start to get more financial stability in her life?<\/li>\n<li>What would your mom like YOU to do differently? You can change your response; you cannot pressure anyone else to change theirs. Can you take suggestions or direction from your mother and then let her know if she has reasonable or unrealistic expectations of your behaviour?<\/li>\n<li>Are there family secrets that need to be uncovered? Has someone made a vow or a promise to do something for one of your siblings, and only mom knows about it?<\/li>\n<li>Is mom trying to keep her dead husband\u2019s memory alive by listening to her husband\u2019s voice in her head? Did she make deathbed promises that are no longer workable?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>This winter I have met young ranchers who don\u2019t want the debt-load of their parents. They have a mom who likes to \u201clook like she is wealthy, but the truth is there is a lot of debt\u201d. I have another young farmer who has tried counseling and was advised to walk away from a mother who doesn\u2019t work to change behaviour for a healthier relationship. Another son has chosen not to challenge the poor choices of his mother and ignores the impact his volatile mom has on his spouse.<\/p>\n<p>If you can shower love and blessing on your mother this year, be grateful for emotionally sound relationships. Those of us who are motherless can choose to model great listening skills for the wounded around us who are longing for better connections to family.<\/p>\n<p>We can also work at exploring the other person\u2019s perspective. What does it look like to be in mom\u2019s shoes this year? Show her grace and empathy.<\/p>\n<p>Can we learn to share our emotions respectfully, saying, \u201cWow, I had no idea what was really going on for you, \u201ctell me more. It feels good to get a better understanding of your journey!\u201d Expressing emotions is a positive conflict behaviour.<\/p>\n<p>Reach out. \u201cWould you like to talk? I\u2019ll listen.\u201d You don\u2019t have to fix the other person; you just need to be present with their story.<\/p>\n<p>Adapt and be adaptable. I thought I was hosting a large family gathering, only to find out that I was just cooking the ham and coming to another house to celebrate. This was a miscommunication with no blame or judgement. I work to live on a drama-free farm.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cJust because there is drama, does not mean you have to attend the performance.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Seek to build on the good. If you are having a hard time finding a Mother\u2019s Day card that is reflective of the reality of your relationship, you might want to use a blank card. Can you be grateful for the good things your mom has given you or taught you? If words are too hard, maybe just a simple clutch of flowers will convey a degree of caring or offer to do a small chore to lighten mom\u2019s load.<\/p>\n<p>Every farm mom who reaches out to our team is looking to find better communication to get family harmony. It\u2019s tough when some family members are not willing to do the work to change the language or make repair conflict hurts to build a legacy for the farm family.<\/p>\n<p>I pray you to have a Happy Mother\u2019s Day on your farm.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>Elaine Froese, Certified coach. Click <a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/shop\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a> for resources.<\/p>\n<p>Recently I had the pleasure of doing a podcast with two young farm moms of the Midwest Farm Wives podcast. Listen to it now on<br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/www.stitcher.com\/show\/midwest-farm-wives\/episode\/63-preparing-for-the-future-202563589\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Stitcher<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/63-preparing-for-the-future\/id1471900461?i=1000558312985\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Apple<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>We have a tool called the Conflict Dynamics Profile, which you can do online to learn about your strong conflict behaviors and your hot buttons. My hot buttons are folks who are aloof and or unreliable. Go <a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/coaching\/conflict-dynamics-profile\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a> to find out more.<\/p>\n<p>Invite Elaine to speak at your next event, virtually or in -person. Visit <a href=\"https:\/\/www.iowafarmerswife.com\/events\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a> for the IN-LAW webinar on June 11.<\/p>\n<p>Did you enjoy<em><strong> When it is hard to honour Mom what can I do? <\/strong><\/em>You might want to check these articles out too:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2020\/03\/17\/importance-present-children-grandchildren\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How to Be Present With Family (and Why It Matters)<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2019\/10\/16\/6-important-roles-farm-wives-rejuvenate\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Rejuvenating Roles of Women in Agriculture<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2019\/05\/12\/farm-mom-lessons\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Farm Mom: The Important Lessons She Has Taught You<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; Coming to terms with a farm mom who is difficult to deal with may not be what you were expecting to read. 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