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Hopefully you are now singing ” all is safely gathered in” as the garden is put to bed for<\/p>\n

the winter, and crop work is nearing completion. The farming seasons offer us constant<\/p>\n

challenges and yet many joys. Are you finding joy in your journey?<\/p>\n

Have you been talking to yourself lately? Are these happy, self\u2011affirming thoughts? Did<\/p>\n

you enjoy a good belly laugh this week? Enough probing. The way we talk to ourselves<\/p>\n

has a big effect on how we feel and how we see things happening around us.<\/p>\n

Positive self\u2011talk is saying “I can”, setting your mind to meet the challenge at hand. As<\/p>\n

parents of young children, Wes and I are often challenged with replacing put\u2011downs with<\/p>\n

building comments like “yes, you can do it!” Even adults get trapped with “I blew it,”<\/p>\n

rather than “next time I’ll get it right,” or “I just know I’ll screw it up,” rather than “I’11<\/p>\n

learn from my mistakes and eventually I’ll be able to do it!”<\/p>\n

Family therapist, Virginia Satir came from a family who used the expression “full\u2011pot”.<\/p>\n

Mother might declare, “be nice to me, I’m having a half\u2011pot day!” Having a full pot meant<\/p>\n

you were feeling good about yourself and quite positive in your outlook . The actual large<\/p>\n

black cast iron pot on their farm was used for soap\u2011making, soups, and moving smelly<\/p>\n

stuff.<\/p>\n

The way we talk to ourselves, our self\u2011talk is our choice. We choose to be positive, seeing<\/p>\n

the glass of water in our hand as half\u2011full, while the negative approach is to see it half\u00ad<\/p>\n

empty. There is also the GIGO factor. Garbage In means Garbage Out. What kinds of<\/p>\n

things are you feeding your mind? Someone once said that the two biggest factors for<\/p>\n

our happiness in life are the people we meet and the books we read.<\/p>\n

Strong families practice good communication skills which enhance positive self\u2011talk. Are<\/p>\n

you quick to snuffout negative name\u2011calling or labels in your conversations? Try<\/p>\n

changing the comment “if only I would have” to “next time I will” Can your family<\/p>\n

count on you to listen intently to their feelings ? Does your body language (affection, eye<\/p>\n

contact, open arms) communicate acceptance?<\/p>\n

A wonderful birthday letter from a friend who appreciated our relationship challenged me<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

with an encouragement to “lighten up. ” Take stock of your thought life and find moments<\/p>\n

of joy in your journey. Here are some ideas:<\/p>\n

\u2011Sing or whistle a merry tune. My father\u2011in\u2011law was easily found on our yard if we would<\/p>\n

just listen for his whistling. Sing along with the radio or join a community choir.<\/p>\n

\u2011Connect with a friend. Phone calls, the coffee shop, or a handwritten letter bring good<\/p>\n

news. Hang around with positive people.<\/p>\n

\u2011Read something inspirational. For some this is a daily must of connecting to God’s word<\/p>\n

in the Bible. Feed your soul and spirited self\u2011talk will follow.<\/p>\n

\u2011Laugh. I delighted in listening to my son read his joke book when he was younger. Hopefully cartoons\u00a0 will give you a good chuckle and send those healthy endorphins flowing in your<\/p>\n

brain to make you feel better. “A joyful heart is good medicine.(Proverbs [17:22]<\/span>)” Look<\/p>\n

for humor in everyday situations and share funny situations with others.<\/p>\n

\u2011\u2011Craft and create. Whether your forte is fancy woodworking or wool making, something<\/p>\n

of beauty creates more energy and enjoyment. Make a list of fun things you enjoy doing,<\/p>\n

and do them! Your kids and grandkids would love to fulfill your list with you!<\/p>\n

\u2011Look up! Our\u00a0 adopted grand-children are waiting to see the Northern Lights. Soon\u00a0 the hunters will be<\/p>\n

looking up for geese. Whether you’re after stars or birds, appreciate the peaceful<\/p>\n

wonder around you .Say “wow, that’s awesome” to yourself<\/p>\n

\u2011Play! Take a play break. The reason toddlers have so much energy is that they don’t get<\/p>\n

stuck at one task they change gears often. If playing to you is taking something apart in<\/p>\n

your workshop, share the fun with a younger person.<\/p>\n

Take the time to find moments of joy, a few minutes or a few hours every day. Learn to<\/p>\n

laugh at yourself in a kind way. Talk to yourself with positive comments and say with<\/p>\n

fervor “I like myself”. \u00a0You are lovable and capable. Lighten up!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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