{"id":504,"date":"2014-02-21T16:00:33","date_gmt":"2014-02-21T16:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/blog\/?p=504"},"modified":"2014-02-21T16:00:33","modified_gmt":"2014-02-21T16:00:33","slug":"happy-christmas-in-the-country","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2014\/02\/21\/happy-christmas-in-the-country\/","title":{"rendered":"Happy Christmas in the Country"},"content":{"rendered":"

Heaps of snow in the Peace region of Alberta make it easy to visualize a \u201cwhite Christmas\u201d as I write this.\u00a0 If I were to ask you about the top ten things that make a great Christmas celebration for you, what would you answer?<\/p>\n

Most families that I work with want to maintain family harmony, or get back on track again as \u201ca happy family\u201d. Dr. Nikki Gerrard\u2019s research of farm families found that one of the ways that families keep resilient or strong is through celebration.<\/p>\n

Recently I met a family who decided it was high time to re-institute monthly Sunday dinners at the home farm. This was a chance for the farmers and non-farmers to keep connected as a family and have a real thread of conversation to keep \u201cin the loop\u201d about farm activities. Everyone is proud of their multi-generation farm, and they want the legacy of happy farm memories to continue.<\/p>\n

Christmas for you, may be about making memories. Sometimes our expectations are not met, and yet we can still be content and grateful for the celebration that actually transpired.<\/p>\n

Last Christmas in New Zealand, we were embraced by a farm family who gave us stockings filled with New Zealand specialties, a Church service, and a delicious meal.<\/p>\n

The delightful part for the kids was seeing Gramps shoot a rabbit and skin it. This event was not on my list of \u201cthis has to happen to be a great Christmas memory\u201d .<\/p>\n

Sometimes we just have to let go, and live in the present moment. If you don\u2019t have huge expectations of perfection, you might be surprised at the simple pleasures of celebrating together that bring you joy.<\/p>\n

Richness in relationship is very important to me. That\u2019s why I just took down last year\u2019s Christmas photos that were encroaching on the wall space of a favourite oil painting. Folks come into my home and review the faces on the wall to identify themselves, or a connection to a familiar visage.<\/p>\n

We are all longing for connection.<\/p>\n

Gerrard\u2019s research also showed that the more resilient farm folks stayed connected to their community and each other. Sadly, there are fewer \u201cfriendly\u201d farmers, according to some interviews I have done recently with farm managers challenged to expand their land base. The older rural etiquette of treating neighbours with kindness and respect is being eroded. Folks who rent land for two decades are not necessarily the ones given first right of refusal to purchase the soil that they have nurtured for many harvests. Some neighbours don\u2019t have time to chat anymore.<\/p>\n

What kinds of connections are you longing for this month?<\/p>\n

I smile inwardly when folks ask \u201cAre you ready for Christmas?\u201d as if it is badge of some weird martyrdom type honour to say \u201c I will never get it all done\u00a0 !\u201d Happy people really don\u2019t care what the house looks like, and whether the cookies are off Martha Stewart\u2019s recipe collection. Families are longing to linger at the table of hospitality and friendship. Christmas will come \u201cready or not!\u201d<\/p>\n

Sadly in our neighbourhood,\u00a0 life-long friends have moved west, north to the city, and some have stopped calling for a visit. Maybe it is time to be intentional about re-connecting to family and friends. A phone call or text is so easy, yet so many people don\u2019t decide to reach out and communicate the invitation to share life and make new memories.<\/p>\n

Tips to celebrate connection this Christmas:<\/p>\n

1.Invite a foreign student or single person from your community to share a meal , coffee or Christmas at your home.<\/p>\n

2.Ask your local Christmas Cheer Board what day they need you to help wrap gifts, and donate practical gifts, especially for men. Help out at the Food Bank. We hope to help serve at the Christmas Day community dinner that serves folks who normally would be celebrating solo.<\/p>\n

3.Bake cookies with your grandchildren and box them \u00a0in the freezer\u00a0 for the parents as a surprise.<\/p>\n

4.Go through the winter hat and mitts collection and see what you can re-cycle to the local thrift store.<\/p>\n

5.Call a young mother (daughter in law) with your offer to spend 3 hours watching her children while she attends to some needed self-care. Blow out someone\u2019s lane secretly!<\/p>\n

6. Ask a widow\/er if their family is coming home for Christmas. If she or he is slow to answer make sure you pick them up to spend time at your home.<\/p>\n

7.Visit www.buynothingchristmas.org<\/a> and be thankful for all the material gifts you enjoy as a very rich Canadian. Write a note of appreciation to each of your children for the delight they bring to your life, and why they are special to you. If the kids are causing you grief, write that child a letter of encouragement with your vision for their future.<\/p>\n

8.Take out lots of great home decorating magazines from your library like \u201cReal Simple\u201d and re-purpose your pine cones, candles, and rose-hips growing in the ditch. Have some fun playing with natural objects and finding treasures buried in your home. The MALL \u00a0parking lot is way too crowded at this time of year, avoid the hassle of crowds, and enjoy \u201cputzing\u201d with what you already have.<\/p>\n

9. Call your best friend who lives too far away and have tea with her while you both enjoy a chat on the phone or the delight of www.skype.com<\/a> .<\/p>\n

10. Celebrate fun things with your farm family. Cut the talk about business, and move the heavy decisions or family business meeting to the 28th<\/sup> of December. Decide to just be a family and let go of the business conversations for the moment. You are creating a legacy of good memories. The snow forts, pond skating, the sleigh rides, the winter marshmallow roasts, the log stacking\u2026whatever your family decides to do just for fun\u2019s sake. Do it !<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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