What if I showed you a free tool that you could implement today that would have the potential to make your farm 21% more profitable, without spending a dime ?<\/p>\n
US farm journalist John Phipps\u00a0 said his business generated more income\u00a0 when he used the tool.\u00a0 The top-shelf farmers in over 6 states who were studied by Virginia Tech Grad students became 21% more profitable with regular farm business meetings.<\/p>\n
What is it?<\/p>\n
It\u2019s listening. When I first heard Phipps confess that even as a gifted TV host and broadcaster he had signed himself up for a better listening course, I was all\u00a0 ears. Eighty percent of effective communication is good listening, yet many farmers don\u2019t hear well, they are hearing impaired and too stubborn to get hearing aids . Some folks just choose to block out the insights or opinions of other farm team members.<\/p>\n
The farm families who meet regularly to communicate their vision, goals and business strategies are the ones who are 21% more profitable.<\/p>\n
I spoke with a frustrated young farm woman recently, while her children were yelling for attention in the background. She focused her \u201cmommy ears\u201d on our conversation since her farm team is not talking, and won\u2019t listen to outside resourceful advisors.<\/p>\n
When families refuse to talk or listen to the hopes dreams and aspirations of the succeeding generation it causes hurt , fear and deep frustration.<\/p>\n
Why should you be a better listener?<\/strong><\/p>\n You owe it to your family and your family to be the best you can be. Listening is a skill that can be developed and improved. If we are well-listened to we feel respected, and have a positive emotional bank account that will help us be more resilient on the plugged combine days or through poor price cycles. When we feel heard we can become better spouses, happier parents and healthier friends.<\/p>\n I have attended a listening workshop taught by an English fellow, Tom Brown. I\u00a0 am often approached by desperate farmers at conferences who are looking for the magic formula to unlock the key to their wife\u2019s hearts\u2026and I suggest they really listen to her side of the marriage story.<\/p>\n Spending time with the electronics off, and your ears on, tuned in to the needs of your spouse is likely the best gift you can give especially during busy stressful harvest seasons. Marriage time requires focused attention, listening to each other, for at least one hour a week.<\/p>\n Start by asking , \u201cWhat\u2019s the most important thing for us to talk about<\/strong> ?\u201d Then zip your lip and wait for the outpouring of words that hold dreams, desires, and pent-up feelings.<\/p>\n Open ended questions that don\u2019t require a simple yes or no answer will start the tsunami of ideas flowing your way. If your son is an \u201cidea\u201d style communicator, he needs lots of uninterrupted time to explain his great production idea to you, and talk about the potential to diversify your farm operation. Don\u2019t interrupt. Let him go on all the tangents he needs to and look him in the eye. Nod in affirmation that you are truly listening, and try not to cross your arms in disgust or with impatience. Do you actually remember what it felt like to have dreams, be invincible, and feel like nothing could stop you ?<\/p>\n Listen to your inner thoughts.<\/strong> Some folks have not showed up to listen to themselves for a very long time. I am always amazed at the number of phone calls I get during combining season, when butts are parked on the seats for 13 hour long harvest days, and there is lots of time to listen to self.<\/p>\n I am convinced that great listening in a farm team creates a haven to work in a healthy way, and reduces stress. When I happen to have a time of tears my hubby will ask \u201c Is this about me?\u201d and he listens very carefully to my answer.<\/p>\n \u201cNo.\u201d Then he lets me have a good cry, because he knows that crying for me is a good outlet for pent-up emotion, and tears can be healing. He asks directly, and then listens. I don\u2019t cry often, but I appreciate that someone is listening to my feelings.<\/p>\n I also listen to the conversations my hubby has on the cell phone to see the tone of the day, and some of the stresses that he is dealing with. His chats with other farmers are very telling to me, and all I have to do is pay attention with my ears.<\/p>\n Reserve judgment.<\/strong><\/p>\n I am not encouraging eavesdropping on private phone conversations, but I do think that being very intentional about the conversations you hear around you, and reserving judgment will help you resolve conflict in your family.<\/p>\n Listening to both sides of the story, coming with a sense of curiosity, and checking to make sure that you heard the message correctly are all great conflict resolution skills.<\/p>\n Gossip is not a great listening skill<\/strong>. It kills families when the gossip triangle is fed by many listeners only\u00a0 happy\u00a0 to sit and seethe with \u201cnew\u201d information which colours their thinking of other farm team members. Cut the gossip . Go directly to the source , that is the person who has offended you, and deal directly with the issue at hand. \u201cBe soft on the person and hard on the problem\u201d. Treat their conversation with respect as you listen without interruption, and give them your ear and attention.<\/p>\n I truly hope that your will work hard to make your farm team more profitable by working on being a better listener.<\/p>\n We all goof up and make mistakes in communication, but hopefully we can laugh about it later, and not cringe at the thought of having to be together.<\/p>\n When\u00a0 my husband Wes asked me to meet him at the barn , I quickly drove for 15 minutes to pick him up. The trouble was he was at the \u201cold\u201d barn, not the pig barn, and I \u201cshould have known\u201d had I been listening earlier to the plan for the day to be at Henry\u2019s field.<\/p>\n No worries. I just got there a few minutes later, but you can be sure I was better\u00a0 at double-checking what message I had just heard.<\/p>\n Bless those women in your life who have \u201cmommy ears\u201d and can hear the amazing things their children are up to. Choose to honor your family members with your rapt attention as they share themselves verbally with you. Be patient with the silent ones who have not yet found enough trust to know that you are actually listening and validating their feelings.<\/p>\n Sign up for a listening workshop,\u00a0 or search the internet on \u201chow to be a better listener.\u201d Then act !<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What if I showed you a free tool that you could implement today that would have the potential to make your farm 21% more profitable, without spending a dime ? 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