{"id":374,"date":"2013-02-13T21:25:20","date_gmt":"2013-02-13T21:25:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/blog\/?p=374"},"modified":"2013-02-13T21:25:20","modified_gmt":"2013-02-13T21:25:20","slug":"keeping-above-the-waterline-buoyancy-and-resilience-required","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2013\/02\/13\/keeping-above-the-waterline-buoyancy-and-resilience-required\/","title":{"rendered":"Keeping Above the Waterline…Buoyancy and Resilience Required"},"content":{"rendered":"

The snowy \u201cweather bomb\u201d of October 27th<\/sup> shut down school in our town. \u00a0I was miles away in Victoria, celebrating my birthday, walking the beach with a friend and my hubby. We learned about the severe weather index , a measure of how tough a place is to live : Victoria\u2019s score is 13 compared to Winnipeg\u2019s 51. No surprises there.<\/p>\n

This morning I discovered 2 inches of water in my basement storage room, and started the water vacuum procedure again. A friend called to report she had 6 inches in her basement, and insurance proceedings dictated a major renovation of drywall gutting and flooring removal. Her perspective of the stress of rural families for 2010 was \u201csome folks are just trying to stay above the waterline.\u201d She also mentioned a fellow who had 80,000 gallons of water in his basement\u2026due to a recent house fire !<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s only stuff, and really highlights what is important\u201d was his response.<\/p>\n

According to Dr. Nikki Gerrard\u2019s research of farm stress , our ability to bounce back \u00a0from stress is called \u201cresiliency\u201d . How are you doing this fall ?<\/p>\n

I would encourage readers to seek out an emotional support group : folks who are willing to listen, connect with you on\u00a0 a regular basis and offer you unconditional love and support.<\/p>\n

Do you have just 3 close friends beyond your family circle?<\/p>\n

Prairies North <\/em>magazine had a delightful article about the \u201cDelisle Pickle\u201d a special gathering spot in Delisle Saskatchewan where tea and visiting was the main menu.<\/p>\n

In Boissevain we now have the \u201cSawmill Tea and Coffee Company\u201d which I tell folks is our version of\u00a0 \u201cStarbucks\u201d.\u00a0 The effect on the community has been amazing. You can drop in for lunch, just grab a fancy coffee or tea, and visit with other folks hanging out. The teens play pool, eat gelato, the seniors sip drinks by the window, and many enjoy the leather cub chairs and couches to have animated conversations until 11 at night !<\/p>\n

My writing was just interrupted by a phone call from life long friend who is trying to book time to visit us at the farm. I feel honoured and excited when folks take time to visit.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t under estimate the power of connection via the phone, and now Skype. If you have high speed internet, connections on Skype also allow you to have video of the person you are talking to. If the video line is poor, you can also chat by texting in the chat box. I have a friend in New Zealand who is also a farm coach, and we really appreciate the time on Skype to encourage each other.<\/p>\n

Stock up on cards, stamps and mail the letter to your friend, even if she lives in the same town. Remember how much fun it is to open a card instead of the pile of bills facing you. Financial strain this winter is going to be brutal. When I flew over Saskatchewan this week it looked like muskeg to me\u2026really sad to see so much water and so many flooded out dreams.<\/p>\n

Perhaps it is time to join a book club and get lost in a book, and then share your ideas with other women. Bible studies are another way to share the power of the written word, and then spend time praying for each other. If you are in need of prayer, it is a wonderful thing to have close friends that you can ask to pray for you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also great to praise God for the good things in your life, and not just come to conversations with the Creator about all your woes, which of course He knows about.<\/p>\n

Pop the popcorn with girlfriends ( or your willing hubby) and watch a really funny chick flick. The first time I watched Mamma Mia I was so tired from the harvest, I really had a tearful good laugh and it felt great. The \u201cDancing Queen\u201d songs brought back many high school memories of fun, and I think it was a good thing to be reminded to seek out fun. Dorothy Whetter , formerly of Dand, created a delightful piano CD in her eighties, and I use her music to life my spirits when I am organizing .<\/p>\n

Sharing music with friends is a great way to feel more buoyant in tough times.<\/p>\n

If movies and music aren\u2019t your thing, maybe you just need to share the fun of creating something.\u00a0 Our town has a \u201cGuilty Quilters\u201d club, \u00a0who are guilty of not feeding husbands when they are overtaken by the desire to quilt together. Is it time to quilt, scrapbook, crop photos or find your watercolours again?<\/p>\n

Our brains are weary from worry, lots of activity and we need to use a different set of neurons to create things and find some relief. In Victoria I did two \u00a0watercolour postcards of the amazing fall colours and mountain landscape. It felt good to celebrate the arrival of a printer\u2019s press at my friend\u2019s art studio and help her associates make rags for art projects. When was the last time you fed your creative side?<\/p>\n

Men at risk for depression due to sustained stress need to find\u00a0 ways to keep above the waterline, too. Oprah\u2019s viewer \u201cLarry\u201d had a man cave in his garage where he watched Oprah in the privacy of his garage ! We had hunters here this fall from Wisconsin who just wanted to sit in the dark and wait for geese, and then tell stories at supper. Many farmers I coach relay to me that they have forgotten how to have fun. The work on the farm is always going to be there, but the relationships may fade away if we don\u2019t intentionally connect on a regular basis.<\/p>\n

If the floodwaters were rising quickly , what precious things would you want in your boat ?<\/p>\n

The most important things in life are not things. We all want to love and be loved. We all need respect and connection. The families that bounce back from the blasts of unfortunate weather and financial \u00a0stresses are the ones that see hope in communication, connection and celebration of community.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wallow in your worries. Connect to someone who cares about you. If you are the strong one at the moment, offer a listening ear, and a praying heart.<\/p>\n

Offer hope to those who feel they are sinking and remember that
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