{"id":12264,"date":"2025-12-04T00:00:30","date_gmt":"2025-12-04T05:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/?p=12264"},"modified":"2025-12-04T12:14:23","modified_gmt":"2025-12-04T17:14:23","slug":"why-the-holidays-feel-heavy-for-farmers-and-how-to-find-contentment-instead-of-stress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2025\/12\/04\/why-the-holidays-feel-heavy-for-farmers-and-how-to-find-contentment-instead-of-stress\/","title":{"rendered":"Contentment in Times of Prescriptive Joy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; collapsed=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||1px|1px||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/AjCEoH78uog?si=sDs8pmQxvryE1LBt\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m going to be honest, there are certain things about the holidays that I dread. Not only does the minimalist inside of me cringe at all of the stuff that is advertised, sometimes as early as September, but this time of year brings on an underlying pressure to feel happy. Soundtracks and store banners imply that joy should come naturally, when in reality, it may not be exactly what everyone wants to feel. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For many folks, the holidays can be a difficult season. Surrounded by merriment, many people experience loneliness, heartache for previously strong, now broken family connections, or the emptiness felt from the loss of loved ones. Several farming families that I have coached have found Christmas time to be difficult as they are still navigating farm transition conversations with some unresolved conflicts. Even for those who have family and friends to spend time with, gatherings focused on desserts and gift-giving cannot distract a farmer who is worried about the price of wheat or how to rewrite the will. Just when things have slowed down, and you are reflecting on how stressful harvest was because of the ill-timed rain, someone wishes you \u2018peace and joy.\u2019 The last thing you likely need is someone telling you \u2018it&#8217;s the most wonderful time of year\u2019 while handing you a holiday card full of smiling faces. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><em>What is it about Joy that makes it difficult to feel?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I can\u2019t say I\u2019ve met a lot of farmers who have talked openly about moments of joy, I think, because farming is so unpredictable in nature. In her book <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Atlas of Heart<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, which is essentially an encyclopedia of emotions, Bren\u00e9 Brown defines joy as a \u201cfeeling of deep spiritual connection, pleasure, and appreciation.&#8221; This is an emotion that a farmer may have a hard time embracing at times, given the challenges of running a business at the mercy of Mother Nature. Brown adds that joy is \u201cthe most vulnerable human emotion\u201d because people have a hard time allowing themselves to \u201clean into good news [and] wonderful moments\u2026 because we believe if we allow ourselves to feel joy, we are inviting disaster.\u201d Brown calls this \u2018foreboding joy\u2019 &#8211; the idea that in a moment of potential happiness, we are waiting for something bad to happen. You may have experienced this at harvest time when your crop is coming in, and you are seeing better yields than you expected. You want to feel hopeful in the moment &#8211; maybe even happy &#8211; but instead you think about and anticipate something bad happening that could affect your bottom line.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What if, this holiday season, we give ourselves a break from the pressure to feel joy if it&#8217;s not working for us. One alternative could be focusing on contentment, a state of being that Brown calls \u201cthe feeling of completeness, appreciation, and \u2018enoughness\u2019 that we experience when our needs are satisfied.\u201d Brown explains that \u201ccontentment is about satisfaction, and that, ironically, is an unsatisfying idea for a lot of people.\u201d In a world that seems obsessed with over-the-top moments of happiness and seeking out all of the ways to<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">buy and experience these moments, it can be hard to allow ourselves to feel just\u2026 fulfilled, not more or less. Think about the time you saw your neighbour\u2019s new combine and thought, <\/span><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wouldn\u2019t I be happier if I had one?<\/span><\/em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Brown concludes with \u201cIf we\u2019re not satisfied with our life as a whole, does this mean we need to go and get and do the stuff that will make us satisfied\u2026 or does this mean we stop taking for granted what we have so we can experience real contentment and enoughness?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have seen many farm families experience contentment together after their second family meeting, where we facilitate dialogue. Any tensions felt at the first meeting have decreased thanks to our addressing major conflicts that were previously not being talked about constructively. Everyone has had his or her voice heard, has expressed thoughts and feelings openly, and has been able to share a hope or vision for the farm. There are no unrealistic outlooks giving false hope or pressure to be happy with anticipated changes to come. What is felt by those in the meeting is an appreciation for where the farm is at now &#8211; even without the new combine &#8211; and a sense of sufficiency because the family has realized that keeping the farm and the family intact is more important than buying the newest model.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Here are some ways to feel more content this holiday season:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Share the tough moments<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &#8211; When someone reaches out to wish you Merry Christmas, don\u2019t be afraid to admit that it was a tough year. Just because it&#8217;s implied that the holidays are meant to be joyful, you can give yourself grace if that\u2019s not how it feels.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Celebrate the small wins <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8211; You may not have figured out the perfect crop rotation for that new seed variety, but you got through another growing season in good health. There is so much to appreciate on the farm when things are working well, even when the new or bigger goals are not yet accomplished.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><strong><b>Practice gratitude <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8211; I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard this before, but research shows that gratitude can improve sleep, mental health, physical wellbeing, and more. Robert Emmons, a professor of psychology at the University of California, explains that gratitude helps us appreciate what we have instead of seeking out new things to make us happy. He writes, \u201cgratitude makes us appreciate the value of something\u2026 we\u2019re less likely to take it for granted.\u201d While this practice may seem oversimplified, research has shown that adopting small habits of expressing gratitude, individually or in teams, can have a big impact.<\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Did you enjoy <em><strong>Contentment in Times of Prescriptive Joy<\/strong><strong>?<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0You might want to check these articles out, too:<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2025\/11\/06\/navigating-farm-life-8-practical-tips-to-prevent-farm-burnout\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Navigating Farm Life: Making Intentional Choices to Manage Burnout<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2025\/10\/23\/human-resource-training-for-farm-families-why-it-matters\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Building HR Skills for a Stronger Family Business<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2025\/10\/09\/7-ways-grain-marketing-mirrors-farm-transition-planning\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">7 Ways to Streamline Your Farm Transition Process<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;Section&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;Row&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/Value-Rocks-Eisenhower-Matrix-1.jpg&#8221; title_text=&#8221;Value Rocks &#038; Eisenhower Matrix (1)&#8221; url=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/value-rocks-eisenhower-matrix\/&#8221; url_new_window=&#8221;on&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Image&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The holidays can feel overwhelming for many farmers who are juggling financial uncertainty, family tension, and the pressure to \u201cfeel joyful.\u201d This article explores why joy can be difficult to access and how contentment, gratitude, and small wins can offer a gentler, more grounded path through holiday stress for farmers.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":65,"featured_media":12270,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/o4K6bItAbCY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe>\r\n\r\nHarvest is in full swing on our farm, and I am not there\u2026for a few days. Where is it written you cannot leave the farm during harvest? (Almost on every page of the unpublished book \u201cThe Culture of Agriculture.\u201d)\r\n\r\nIf you are one of the 2800 folks who have stumbled upon \u201cFinding Fairness in Farm Transition\u201d on my YouTube channel at Farm Family Coach, you already know I am on a mission to change mindsets in agriculture. Fairness is helping everyone in the family be successful.\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Enter Scott Armstrong and his new workbook: <i>Mind Switch Retirement Planner<\/i>.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n<img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-6952 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-1024x512.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" \/>\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Armstrong is a speaker friend who shared his insights at a national financial planner September convention in Niagara Falls, the place I also journeyed to at the start of our September harvest. He uses the word \u201cretirement\u201d, for ag folks I prefer to use the term reinvention:<\/p>\r\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Here are some things to consider as you age on your farm or ranch:<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n<ol class=\"ol1\">\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>What are the current roles you want to continue?<\/b> Which ones would you like to let go of? My farmer is coughing more after cleaning bins, and I am encouraging him to quit that task at age 65, which is now.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Are you still passionate about farming?<\/b> Or just parts of it? Simon Sinek says, \u201cfulfillment comes when we live our lives on purpose\u201d. What is it you are doing on your farm where you lose all track of time? This summer I think my farmer lost track of mowing fields and ditches and waiting for the grain to ripen. I love to play with my grandkids and enjoy their giggles, stories, and curiosity. Play me with them is a sweet spot and I am intentional in making time for them. I am still passionate about helping farm families make intentional choices for a better quality of life and harmony through understanding.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Do your passion and purpose align with your spouse\u2019s vision<\/b>? This is where it gets messy. You want to leave the farm life roles and responsibilities, but your partner does not. Not for a long time! Where is it written you cannot pursue some things in different time zones or days apart from your spouse?<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Independence is one of my core values, yet my husband respects what I need to fill my well, and I am happy when I return to the farm from my off-farm contracts and contacts. Love and respect for the other can go both ways.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Adventure is big<\/b> on Scott Armstrong\u2019s workbook list. Farmers spend a lot of money on crop protection and other inputs. Many use the points from farm credit cards to fund short-term winter adventures. One of my clients is on a motorbike in the Maritimes as I write this. (Dairy farmer). Another farmer spends time in Mexico helping the poor build houses in the winter, and he wants to do more of this. Our adventures to visit friends in New Zealand, or travel with friends to Hawaii have been great times of renewal. Perhaps there is an ag tour you have been putting off. The GREAT PAUSE showed us how isolation and lack of adventure can really cramp our style, but we now have options. The most recent adventure for folks in our circle has been electric bikes. They are great for checking fields, riding down the Turtle Mountains to Boissevain, and going for a quick spin before supper. What is the adventure you have been putting off?<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Vitality is an energy we all want more of.<\/b> Armstrong is convinced we are only using 50% of our body\u2019s capacity. Our wonderful physician Dr. Nell shook his finger at us 5 years ago saying \u201cLook you two it\u2019s time you started having some fun. At 75 it all starts to fall apart!\u201d<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>This year I\u2019ve shed some weight via the app \u201cNOOM\u201d and am working on a better morning fitness routine. My friend, a cattle producer at age 68 does lots of stretching and 40 minutes on her elliptical every morning. She makes time for lots of hiking adventures and ensures her body is in great form. Armstrong has a great list of sleep hacks to have more renewal time.\r\nYour body is not a machine. Save money now by paying better attention to your health and making small habit changes to be healthier. Be kind to your brain and get off your devices long before bed. This will not kill you, and your marriage may be better off for the pillow talk without blue lights flashing from your cell phone or iPad, or TV.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Finances:<\/b> The number one encouragement I have is to find a good financial planner who can guide you with your income streams and personal wealth as your farm assets keep growing. CAFA which is the Canadian Association of Farm Advisors has great advisors in their directory who understand the culture of agriculture and the challenges of debt servicing and the need for personal wealth options. See <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.cafanet.ca\"><span class=\"s1\">www.cafanet.ca<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong>Living Legacy:<\/strong> What do you want people to say about you BEFORE you die?\r\nI hope you have a wonderful 80th birthday party where folks can tell you in their own words and stories about how your life really was a blessing to them. Do you want to be able to set your grandkids up for financial success? Can you help fund their RESP for trades or university training? Could you help fund the local arts and culture or sports foundation of your small town? Would you be able to secretly give a \u201cleg up\u201d to a struggling single parent? Having the time to walk alongside newcomers to your community and financial support can be a huge blessing to making your town a great place to age gracefully. We live close to one of Manitoba\u2019s most beautiful small towns. The new bakeshop owner is now making sourdough bread with wheat head designs, plus great peanut butter marshmallow slices. This news may not excite you, but it is becoming a destination attraction. Sometimes it is the \u2018little things in life\u201d that make a day sweeter.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Social times<\/b>. Armstrong surprised me with his challenge to question who your friends are and why. Post-Covid relationships look different, and you may be navigating the loss of long-time or childhood friends. Intentionally make a list of the folks who align with your purpose and plans for growth. I\u2019ll still a big fan of calling my far-away friends to keep relationships growing, yet I also know having tea in person is refreshing. I suspect the guys reading this are longing for more friendships beyond the farm gate. What are you DOING about it?<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Find out more about Scott Armstrong\u2019s fun, practical workbook at <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mindswitch.ca\"><span class=\"s1\">www.mindswitch.ca<\/span><\/a><\/span>, and reach out to the Mind Switch community on <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/profile.php?id=100063687142266\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Facebook<\/a>.<\/span> Tell him you are working on changing the mindsets in agriculture, one family at a time.<\/p>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/roles-storyboard\/\"><strong><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Grab your copy of the Roles Storyboard<\/span><\/strong><\/a> to <span class=\"RFZYhc\">help you understand your 6 key roles - personal, couple, family, work (farm and off farm), friends, community.<\/span>\r\n\r\n***\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Elaine Froese is happy to be writing at 30,000 feet again. Invite her to speak at your next ag event. She has 30-plus years of practical insights for farmers to have the life they\u2019ve always wanted. One day at a time.\u00a0Visit <a href=\"http:\/\/www.elainefroese.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">here <\/span><\/a>or Instagram <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/farmfamilycoach\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@farmfamilycoach<\/a><\/span> and hit the Linktree bio. 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