{"id":10329,"date":"2024-12-19T10:33:07","date_gmt":"2024-12-19T15:33:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/?p=10329"},"modified":"2024-12-20T14:03:01","modified_gmt":"2024-12-20T19:03:01","slug":"simple-strategies-to-navigate-distress-depression-and-disconnection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2024\/12\/19\/simple-strategies-to-navigate-distress-depression-and-disconnection\/","title":{"rendered":"Simple Strategies to Navigate Distress, Depression, and Disconnection"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; collapsed=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||1px|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/R_CmWSJ5kaI?si=Z-PWjjsucanXWB6k\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Patricia Morgan is a dynamic force for change and my good friend. She\u2019s authored a new award-winning book \u201c<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Return to Center\u2026simple strategies to navigate distress, depression<\/span><\/i> <i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and disconnection<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u201d\u00a0 As farm families brace for or embrace the winter season, I thought we all should be reminded of good practical tools to be emotionally strong and physically well when commercial messages are singing \u201cIt\u2019s the most wonderful time of the year! <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201c<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What if it is not your reality on your farm?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&#8217;s Patricia insights into 3 states:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>The Charged state<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. (uncontrolled and disconnected) Your body and nervous system are stimulated to deal with real or perceived danger. This is where you might be triggered or pulled into \u201csurvival mode. Morgan has simple descriptors for feelings (reactive, scared, stressed, and more\u2026 ) and thoughts telling a story of unsafe people in an unsafe world. Folks in this state argue, speak loudly, act rough, name call, and worry with increased heartbeats.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>The Give up state<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (depleted and disconnected). When in this state, folks experience loneliness, possible suicide ideation, hopelessness, doubt and hurt. Morgan says this is most concerning state. Their story of despair leads to isolation, avoidance, sleep changes and more\u2026<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>The Centered state<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. (Emotionally safe and connected) Here people feel aligned, capable, compassionate, peaceful and safe. This is the space of possibilities with clarity, curiosity, and thoughts of being worthy and able to solve problems. When in this state these people can regulate themselves and trust themselves and others.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When we bring folks to the table to create a vision for the family and a vision for the farm business, it\u2019s most ideal to have team members who are in a centered state being resilient and resourceful. If you are longing to get some clarity of expectations in your farm family, you are wise to get to an emotionally healthy place first and repair the angst and distress of the charged state or the give up state. When folks have mental wellness challenges they don\u2019t think rationally and therefore won\u2019t be making rational or good decisions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I imagine you are reading this while in the centered state.\u00a0 You can see other family members who are having a hard time letting go of their identity as farm managers as well as letting go of management tasks and some of your farm assets.\u00a0 Morgan advises you <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">to<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> leave the overwhelm of the Charged state and the stuckness of the Give up state to work towards letting go of chronic distress.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>HELP TO RETURN TO CENTER<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Who is in your emotional support group? Who has the capacity to learn the skills of experiencing a wide range of emotions without becoming triggered? Who can help YOU stay calm in the storm of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours? WHO exhibits CALM during the \u201cpain of not knowing outcomes\u201d when you are trying to get more certainty in your transition?\u00a0 IF NO ONE IN YOUR FAMILY OR CIRCLE HAS THE SKILL TO RETURN TO CENTER, maybe you need to see a therapist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Patricia Morgan is a clinical counsellor who believes in practical tools, such as the SODA method. You can use it when you are in public places like the accountant\u2019s office after you learn some concerning information or the auction mart).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>SODA method:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><b>S<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">TOP whatever you are doing or thinking.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>O<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">BSERVE. Notice your breathing muscles, and nerve endings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>D<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ETACH from your thoughts. Focus on your breath.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>A<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">FFIRM you are ok. Tell yourself, \u201cI am safe.\u201d<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I remember the shock of a highly conflicted brother when he witnessed his business partner (his brother) having a full-blown panic attack during a family meeting. He thought his brother was having a heart attack.\u00a0 He did not realize how highly charged his sibling was due to years of stress and unresolved tensions in the business. You might be thinking, at this moment, of a never discussed or resolved \u201charvest blow-up\u201d!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>As farmers we need to manage our emotional states. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Connecting with nature is what we do when we are in the fields or in the pastures, but do we really observe and pay attention to ways to feel more grounded?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may have seen the stickers with square bales pictures to encourage us to breathe around the perimeter of the bale with \u201cbox breathing\u201d.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">HERE IS HOW IT WORKS: Inhale for 4 counts. Hold your breath for 4 counts. Exhale for 4 counts. Wait for 4 counts. Repeat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Morgan suggests taking a cold shower or splashing icy water on your face to cool down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research indicates that icy water may have a positive effect on recovery after exercise by reducing inflammation and soreness. It also may help build resiliency, restore balance to the nervous system and improve cognitive function and mood. (Mayo Clinic Health System ). I\u2019ve been hearing many next generation farmers on podcasts talking about their daily cold plunge routine. Well, it\u2019s cooling down outside now so maybe a walk down the lane will also work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Music is a powerful tool to activate the nervous system and move energy. Sing along with the Christmas carols on Spotify or get involved with your local carolers this season. Start making a great playlist that is unique to you. I play Pharell Williams \u2018\u201cHappy\u201d on my way home from a speaking event. I also am asking the next generation to share their playlists with me so I can appreciate what gives them energy.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This season of family gatherings can also make, those in the Give up state, feel alone. Morgan invites you to connect with emotionally safe people, make eye contact and speak to them about anything.\u00a0 Eyes are the window to the soul, so eye contact is important for helping people feel seen and heard.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use your phone to reach out by text or email to someone who you feel safe with. Simon Sinek uses the code phrase \u201cHave you got 8 minutes?\u201d when he texts friends for support. The code phrase tells the receiver of the message to pick up now! Eight minutes of conversation may be your best tool to help you <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">return to center.<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another helpful hint is to ask: \u201cAre you hungry or thirsty? \u201cYoung children\u2019s behaviour changes when they need to eat and drink, and the same is true for grandpa. Morgan recommends chewing gum or eating something. She says the idea is to bring your body out of the numbness of the give up state.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Morgan encourages us to put routines in place that support connection and engagement, like nature, animals, and particularly other people.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lastly, comparison is a joy stealer. Don\u2019t let December\u2019s expectations of gifts, gatherings, and cookie exchanges get you down. Look at the strategies that work for you to get you back to center. Buy Patricia Morgan\u2019s book for your family Christmas list and <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Body Keeps The Score<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by Bessel van der Kolk.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I wish you peace and joy in this season of celebrating the birth of Jesus. Let me know what actions you are taking to find harmony through understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #662d91;\">Did you enjoy <strong>Simple Strategies to Navigate Distress, Depression, and Disconnection?<\/strong><\/span><span style=\"color: #662d91;\">\u00a0You might want to check these articles out too:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2024\/12\/05\/discovering-shared-values-in-transition\/\">Discovering Shared Values in Transition<\/a><br \/><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2024\/11\/21\/art-of-hosting\/\">Art of Hosting<\/a><br \/><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/2024\/11\/07\/how-to-talk-about-fair-family-price-for-land-and-other-farm-assets\/\">How to Talk About Fair Family Price for Land and Other Farm Assets.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;Section&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;Row&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Value-Rocks-Eisenhower-Matrix.jpg&#8221; title_text=&#8221;Value Rocks &#038; Eisenhower Matrix&#8221; url=&#8221;https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/eisenhower-matrix-download\/&#8221; url_new_window=&#8221;on&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Image&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In this blog post, Elaine Froese shares some of the simplest strategies for achieving a healthy and robust emotional state that remains solidly in place no matter what may be going on around you and on your farm.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":10372,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/o4K6bItAbCY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe>\r\n\r\nHarvest is in full swing on our farm, and I am not there\u2026for a few days. Where is it written you cannot leave the farm during harvest? (Almost on every page of the unpublished book \u201cThe Culture of Agriculture.\u201d)\r\n\r\nIf you are one of the 2800 folks who have stumbled upon \u201cFinding Fairness in Farm Transition\u201d on my YouTube channel at Farm Family Coach, you already know I am on a mission to change mindsets in agriculture. Fairness is helping everyone in the family be successful.\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Enter Scott Armstrong and his new workbook: <i>Mind Switch Retirement Planner<\/i>.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n<img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-6952 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-1024x512.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" \/>\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Armstrong is a speaker friend who shared his insights at a national financial planner September convention in Niagara Falls, the place I also journeyed to at the start of our September harvest. He uses the word \u201cretirement\u201d, for ag folks I prefer to use the term reinvention:<\/p>\r\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Here are some things to consider as you age on your farm or ranch:<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n<ol class=\"ol1\">\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>What are the current roles you want to continue?<\/b> Which ones would you like to let go of? My farmer is coughing more after cleaning bins, and I am encouraging him to quit that task at age 65, which is now.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Are you still passionate about farming?<\/b> Or just parts of it? Simon Sinek says, \u201cfulfillment comes when we live our lives on purpose\u201d. What is it you are doing on your farm where you lose all track of time? This summer I think my farmer lost track of mowing fields and ditches and waiting for the grain to ripen. I love to play with my grandkids and enjoy their giggles, stories, and curiosity. Play me with them is a sweet spot and I am intentional in making time for them. I am still passionate about helping farm families make intentional choices for a better quality of life and harmony through understanding.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Do your passion and purpose align with your spouse\u2019s vision<\/b>? This is where it gets messy. You want to leave the farm life roles and responsibilities, but your partner does not. Not for a long time! Where is it written you cannot pursue some things in different time zones or days apart from your spouse?<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Independence is one of my core values, yet my husband respects what I need to fill my well, and I am happy when I return to the farm from my off-farm contracts and contacts. Love and respect for the other can go both ways.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Adventure is big<\/b> on Scott Armstrong\u2019s workbook list. Farmers spend a lot of money on crop protection and other inputs. Many use the points from farm credit cards to fund short-term winter adventures. One of my clients is on a motorbike in the Maritimes as I write this. (Dairy farmer). Another farmer spends time in Mexico helping the poor build houses in the winter, and he wants to do more of this. Our adventures to visit friends in New Zealand, or travel with friends to Hawaii have been great times of renewal. Perhaps there is an ag tour you have been putting off. The GREAT PAUSE showed us how isolation and lack of adventure can really cramp our style, but we now have options. The most recent adventure for folks in our circle has been electric bikes. They are great for checking fields, riding down the Turtle Mountains to Boissevain, and going for a quick spin before supper. What is the adventure you have been putting off?<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Vitality is an energy we all want more of.<\/b> Armstrong is convinced we are only using 50% of our body\u2019s capacity. Our wonderful physician Dr. Nell shook his finger at us 5 years ago saying \u201cLook you two it\u2019s time you started having some fun. At 75 it all starts to fall apart!\u201d<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>This year I\u2019ve shed some weight via the app \u201cNOOM\u201d and am working on a better morning fitness routine. My friend, a cattle producer at age 68 does lots of stretching and 40 minutes on her elliptical every morning. She makes time for lots of hiking adventures and ensures her body is in great form. Armstrong has a great list of sleep hacks to have more renewal time.\r\nYour body is not a machine. Save money now by paying better attention to your health and making small habit changes to be healthier. Be kind to your brain and get off your devices long before bed. This will not kill you, and your marriage may be better off for the pillow talk without blue lights flashing from your cell phone or iPad, or TV.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Finances:<\/b> The number one encouragement I have is to find a good financial planner who can guide you with your income streams and personal wealth as your farm assets keep growing. CAFA which is the Canadian Association of Farm Advisors has great advisors in their directory who understand the culture of agriculture and the challenges of debt servicing and the need for personal wealth options. See <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.cafanet.ca\"><span class=\"s1\">www.cafanet.ca<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li><strong>Living Legacy:<\/strong> What do you want people to say about you BEFORE you die?\r\nI hope you have a wonderful 80th birthday party where folks can tell you in their own words and stories about how your life really was a blessing to them. Do you want to be able to set your grandkids up for financial success? Can you help fund their RESP for trades or university training? Could you help fund the local arts and culture or sports foundation of your small town? Would you be able to secretly give a \u201cleg up\u201d to a struggling single parent? Having the time to walk alongside newcomers to your community and financial support can be a huge blessing to making your town a great place to age gracefully. We live close to one of Manitoba\u2019s most beautiful small towns. The new bakeshop owner is now making sourdough bread with wheat head designs, plus great peanut butter marshmallow slices. This news may not excite you, but it is becoming a destination attraction. Sometimes it is the \u2018little things in life\u201d that make a day sweeter.<\/li>\r\n \t<li class=\"li1\"><b>Social times<\/b>. Armstrong surprised me with his challenge to question who your friends are and why. Post-Covid relationships look different, and you may be navigating the loss of long-time or childhood friends. Intentionally make a list of the folks who align with your purpose and plans for growth. I\u2019ll still a big fan of calling my far-away friends to keep relationships growing, yet I also know having tea in person is refreshing. I suspect the guys reading this are longing for more friendships beyond the farm gate. What are you DOING about it?<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Find out more about Scott Armstrong\u2019s fun, practical workbook at <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mindswitch.ca\"><span class=\"s1\">www.mindswitch.ca<\/span><\/a><\/span>, and reach out to the Mind Switch community on <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/profile.php?id=100063687142266\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Facebook<\/a>.<\/span> Tell him you are working on changing the mindsets in agriculture, one family at a time.<\/p>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/elainefroese.com\/insights\/free-stuff\/roles-storyboard\/\"><strong><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">Grab your copy of the Roles Storyboard<\/span><\/strong><\/a> to <span class=\"RFZYhc\">help you understand your 6 key roles - personal, couple, family, work (farm and off farm), friends, community.<\/span>\r\n\r\n***\r\n<p class=\"p1\">Elaine Froese is happy to be writing at 30,000 feet again. Invite her to speak at your next ag event. She has 30-plus years of practical insights for farmers to have the life they\u2019ve always wanted. One day at a time.\u00a0Visit <a href=\"http:\/\/www.elainefroese.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\">here <\/span><\/a>or Instagram <span style=\"color: #44b6ac;\"><a style=\"color: #44b6ac;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/farmfamilycoach\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@farmfamilycoach<\/a><\/span> and hit the Linktree bio. 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